During dinner with a friend, the conversation turned to the topic of ‘regret’. In a nutshell, we spoke about our life so far and if we had any regrets. Honestly, initially I said yes because there are aspects of my life that I wished that I had handled differently.
However, I have occasionally though about this since our conversation and I have mixed feelings. The reason being, the choices I made were based upon what I knew at the time. I would definitely, in some of the situations, respond differently today because I have more experience, knowledge and a different outlook on life than I did then. In other situations, I would respond the same way I did then.
I also have come to realize that it is self-defeating to live a life of regret because when we do, we re-live guilt, sadness or anger over and over again. This is putting us in a victim role. As the Holidays approach, this could be one of the best gifts you could give yourself.
Below are some tips that can help you to overcome your regrets. Remember, none of us are perfect.
- Step back from your feeling of regret and identify what your regret really is. Allowing yourself to experience these feelings fully with the intention of moving forward can help you stop revisiting them.
- Ask for forgiveness and make amends for any harm you may have caused others. The strange thing is that the person that usually needs to be forgiven is with you 24 hours per day – YOU.
- There is always a lesson even in pain and sadness. When you find yourself thinking of the regret, turn your thoughts to the things you have learned and the opportunities that are now yours – even if they are not what you would have preferred.
- Deal with toxic relationships that need to be addressed or severed?
Until next time…
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