Tips To Stop Worry
We spend so much of our time worrying about the past, the future, things we can’t do, didn’t do, things we have lost, the list goes on and on…
We waste time when we worry! Most of the things we worry about are not even real – they are our ‘headtrash’ (negative thoughts) at play. Other times, they are out of our control.
According to Dr. Leahy in The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You, worrying meets a need.
When we worry…
- We are hoping to find a solution to our problem
- We don’t want to overlook anything.
- If we keep thinking a little longer, maybe we’ll figure it out.
- We don’t want to be surprised.
- We want to be responsible.
In other words, we are trying to create certainty and have some control but worry stagnates your mind and creates confusion, disorder and hopelessness. It can also have health implications – high blood pressure to mention only one.
I know many of you are wondering, “How do I stop worrying?” The following are a few strategies that can help you to overcome worry:
- Decide if the issue is solvable or not. Get a piece of paper and write briefly and concisely, the situation creating the worry. Ask yourself if this is something that you have control over or not? If it is something that you can solve, start brainstorming solutions include others who can help you in the process. If it is insolvable, you have no control – let it go – give it to your Higher Power because worrying won’t do anything but get you stressed out or even sick! If you have difficulty doing this, get some help – it is okay to get professional help to resolve some issues. I have. There are some things that we cannot resolve by ourselves because we are too close to the situation. We need an objective viewpoint to help us to see things differently.
- Change your anxious thoughts. Ask yourself the following questions:
- What’s the evidence that the thought is true? That it’s not true?
- Is there a more positive, realistic way of looking at the situation?
- What’s the chance that this will actually happen? Is high or low? If high, what can you do to stop it, avoid it or lessen its impact. If it’s low, don’t waste time on it. Again, it could be your head trash at work.
What do you worry about? Please try one or both of the above strategies to move forward. Life is too precious to waste it worrying, especially when the thing we are worrying over is not solvable or in our control.
Until next time…
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